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Have you ever been in a situation where you knew the right solution, but the people in charge chose a completely different route? Maybe it was at work, in ministry, or even at home. You offered your best advice—clearly, kindly, and with experience to back it up—only to watch it get politely ignored. And then things went exactly how you knew they would… just not in a good way. That’s the tension we’re talking about in this week’s episode: the challenge of being wise but not in control.

In this episode, I share a story about trying to help a church improve their livestream setup during the pandemic—a process that led to being brushed aside, despite being the most experienced person in the room. It was frustrating, humbling, and ultimately an invitation to dig deeper into what it means to serve with humility rather than ego. Spoiler alert: it’s not easy.

We also explore the emotional undercurrents that come with feeling unheard—especially the subtle pride that wants to be validated more than it wants to serve. And yet, Scripture consistently shows us that wisdom isn’t just about having the right answers; it’s about how we carry ourselves when our answers aren’t accepted. David’s restraint with Saul and Jesus’ quiet endurance in the face of rejection both model what true spiritual maturity looks like.

Being an advisor rather than a decision-maker might feel small, but in God’s kingdom, it’s a powerful position. It takes humility, trust, and a long-term view of influence. Over time, your steady presence, kind counsel, and faithful heart will speak volumes—even if you never get credit for the outcome. That’s legacy. That’s leadership. That’s Christlikeness.

If you’ve ever felt sidelined, overlooked, or quietly frustrated in your role, this episode is for you. Join me as we unpack what it looks like to serve faithfully—even when the livestream is still coming from a phone on a music stand.